Should you share your password with your boyfriend?
“If you love me, you must be willing to share your password with me!”
In the name of love, women often get stuck with those words. The request is usually used as an excuse to ask a proof of loyalty and trust. There are some women who won’t think twice to give their passwords, but there are also those who dare to refuse this request with the risk that their love stories will end.
Sharing password is actually not a new thing in a relationship, some married couples share their passwords for certain reasons, but for the reason of privacy, some couples still keep their passwords secret. Well, what if the relationship status is still dating relationship? Is it safe to share password with a boyfriend?
Whatever your decision is, here are some things you should consider before sharing password with your boyfriend.
What is the purpose and benefit of sharing password with him?
Ask to yourself, what is the purpose and benefit of sharing password with your boyfriend? Is it to make him to do the same thing, sharing his password to you? Is it just to proof your loyalty, trust, and obedience to him? Are you sure if he can be trusted? Are you sure that he will not abuse your trust? A password is a very personal thing, respect the private area is also a form of trust.
You can refuse his request
If your boyfriend asks your social media password, or even something that’s related to finance, such as ATM PIN, you have a right to refuse it. Explain to him why you refuse his request, if you refuse to share password, it doesn’t mean that you don’t trust him or you are hiding something bad from him. There are things that must remain private in a relationship, especially if the relationship is still just a dating. If he is angry or even threatens you, then he’s not a right man to become your partner, he can’t respect your decision, you better leave him.
Be aware of the risks of password sharing
Sharing password in various forms is a risky thing, ranging from the mild one, such as sharing the password of your Facebook or Twitter account. Sharing the password of social media account will only make you feel restricted, uncomfortable, triggering a fight for something trivial, or facing the possibility if one day he will change your account setting, or even delete your account.
Meanwhile, sharing PIN or password that’s related to financial things will give a bigger risk to you. Sometimes women face fraud case or even lose their money because of this. When the relationship is still a dating relationship, or doesn’t have legally binding, you better use a separate account with your boyfriend.
You should also respect his decision
Conversely, if you are the party who ask the password from your boyfriend, you should be ready for any decision he makes. If he refuses to share his password with you, you don’t need to be angry with him. Just like you, he wants a partner who can respect his privacy. Tell him that you trust him even though he doesn’t share his password to you, but if he’s abusing your trust, it is a sign that you have to leave him right away.
