The reasons for the newlyweds to delay having a baby
After the marriage, not all couples planning to have a baby soon. Some couples say that they decide to delay having a baby for several reasons. Usually, the couples want to focus on the careers that are being developed, thus delaying having a baby is a decision that’s considered needs to be taken. Here are some common reasons for newlywed couples to postpone having a baby.
Spend more time together and adjusting to each other
Besides career, the other main reason for newlywed couples to delay having a baby is because they want to spend more time together and also for adjusting to each other. This moment is usually used to talk about the family plan, what they will do to this new family before finally they are ready with the presence of a baby among them. This moment also becomes a moment for the couples to know more about each other, open to each other, and also understand to each other. The Adjustment in early marriage is an important phase for the couples to create a happy marriage.
Prepare to be good parents
After adjusting to each other, the newlyweds also need time to prepare themselves to be good parents. This readiness is important for emotional maturity in caring for the children and also in educating them in the future. With mature personality you will be more confident in welcoming the presence of a baby in the midst of a new family.
Build a more stable financial condition
Another reason to delay having a baby is because the newlyweds want to build a more stable family’s financial condition. This moment is used to set aside part of their income to meet the needs of their children in the future.
They don’t want to simply imitate the other couples
They realize that each couple has different readiness; they don’t want to rush to have a baby just because the other couples already have some children. Having a child will change everything and you need emotional maturity to do it. No need to rush in having a baby just because people around you urging you, it’s better to discuss about this issue with your spouse and determine the right moment to have a baby.
Before deciding to have a baby, ask to yourself: Are you ready to be a parent? Is this something you really want? Are you ready for the changes? Are you ready for the consequences? What would you do if the doctor says that you can’t have a baby? Do you have financial problems to raise a child?
These questions are useful to measure your readiness to become a parent and also to welcome the baby in the midst of new family that you have just built.