Common mistakes when looking for a boyfriend
Too rigid in defining the criteria for an ideal man may bring a problem for you to get a right boyfriend. It is okay to set criteria, but you must remain reasonable and not excessive. Here are some common mistakes when looking for a boyfriend.
He must be perfect
He should be … bla … bla … bla …
You specify a long list of criteria of an ideal man you want to get.
Ok, maybe you have a lot quality that can be proud of, but expecting a perfect partner is just like repel men who try to approach you. No one is perfect, and every character has its own advantages and disadvantages. If the happiness that he gives to you can compensate for deficiencies he has, then there’s nothing wrong if you consider him to be a potential boyfriend in the future.
He must look like…
It is okay to have an idol, but making him as a benchmark of an ideal man will only make you stressful. You are not looking for a model for a magazine cover, nor looking for a star to play in a movie, so you must remain reasonable. All you need is a guy who can make you feel comfortable and has chemistry with you. Physical attraction will last only for temporary, while a good personality will last forever.
He must be rich
Expecting a man who has a good job is a normal thing, but expecting a wealthy man who can satisfy all your needs is a childish thing.
You should still be an independent woman, even if eventually you have a rich man as your spouse, it doesn’t mean you can put all the responsibilities on his shoulders. Anything can happen in the future, so start from beginning you must become an independent woman who doesn’t burden other person with all your needs.
Not learning his personality further
Your friends say if he’s a nice guy, a perfect man to be a mate, has good job, has nice car and bla … bla … bla …
Get references from friends is a good thing, but that doesn’t mean you can take him without learning his personality first. In the end it’s you who will run the relationship, so there’s nothing wrong to be careful and aware. Learn his personality further more before you say ‘Yes’. You are not in a hurry, so just take your time.
Hurry and have too many hopes
You’ve just known him for a month and talked to him for several times, but you have been very sure if he is ‘the right one’, and you can’t wait to be his girlfriend.
Calm down ladies, he would likely run from you if you are in a hurry and urge him to make relationship with you. Even though you both feel fit each other, man still needs time to convince himself that you are the right woman for him. Let him know you further; let him learn if you are the right woman for him.